“What doesn’t kill us, makes us stronger.” Nietzsche said it. Who has not thought or repeated it? I have. Then, when I started thinking about life as it is, I reviewed this expression and whether I wanted to retain it. I’m doing that with a few expressions, as I find them. It has served a good purpose. I think I’m trying to put it away, now.
I was talking with a friend about viruses, particularly, getting the flu. She mentioned that the virus really is designed to kill you, that recovering from it, well, we ought to see the miracle in that. I agree, in part. But, I think a scientist would have a different take. It’s not out to kill you per se. It’s out to survive. A virus is a living thing. It does what it does to live. It hasn’t any concept about killing you, it isn’t personal.
We do this with a lot of things. Set up adversarial relationships. We are at cross purposes. But, is that really true? Is it useful to us? Maybe, that expression has been. Probably many people have pulled up out of the dust by that one. I just want to look at why we have to think things are out to harm, or kill, us? Is it always true? Sometimes a person, or other organism, is just doing what it does, and we happen to be the done to in that situation.
Why do we think misfortune, challenges or trials are this ‘adversity’? It’s the stuff of the day, and you deal with it. That’s the way I’m trying to see things. Trying to get inside that equanimity. I don’t see the limb that fell from our tree and into the road as an adversity. I see that strong wind broke a branch of a very old tree, and it fell. Period. The fires that are currently raging some miles from me, it’s fire. It does what fire does. There is destruction, loss of life and sadness from that. These fires are the result of someone’s careless disregard of the law, and other persons and property. There should be consequences, natural ones that fall from such an event. Why can’t we accept our true feelings about such events, rather than demonizing them? I feel very sad about the destruction of the land, the loss of life and harm to animals, damage of people’s homes and property. It’s an event that leaves a scar. I believe we deal more effectively with our lives, and have something effective to pass on, when we just deal honestly with the emotions we feel, rather than projecting some quality on to something. It’s another layer, not a solution.
So, when you trip over the rug, or fall off the deck (my specialty), the rug and the deck are not out to kill you. They are not a challenge or an adversity. They are what is. The results are what is. You don’t have to like them; it’s ok to be sad about the consequences – it doesn’t help you to think something is out to get you.
On that note, I’m going to have a cup of coffee and sit on my deck – it looks ‘friendly’ today. Lol. Thanks for stopping by. Lilie