We have certainly had news at our house this week. I’ll bet there are others who have also had their challenges.
My husband is doing well. It is nice to be able to talk openly about his MS now. It is good for him, as well. The heat is very hard on him and, as a carpenter, that wasn’t going to make it anymore. So, he’s looking forward. My husband has always been quite an inspiration to me. He doesn’t think negatively. It isn’t that he thinks positively (and here I’m laughing a bit). Skip just doesn’t think negatively. His positivity isn’t a reorientation of his thinking, it is the way he has always looked at life.
In 30 years, we have had joys and sorrows. Skip seems to look at all the same way – with hope. It’s what is of the moment; and he knows that moment changes. He’s been a person courageous and willing to change, willing to adapt. A hard worker and appreciative of his woodworking skill, he has used that well.
I believe the most important thing I have learned (and continue learning) from Skip is forgiveness. Again, not a reorientation of his thinking; it wouldn’t occur to him to hang onto something about someone. A well-grounded understanding of human nature, and not much ruffles feathers. I had to learn that, practice it.
‘Lightening up’ in our thinking, being that mindful observer – taking a step back, assessing before making the decision how, or if, to act, that’s what makes the difference. The old adage, “sleep on it”, very good advice when possible. Thinking, contemplating, patience. Taking oneself out of that reactive, defensive posture, so that you may see clearly your opportunities and choices, and not be so invested in what someone else has done or said, but in the person you have decided (daily) to be. Then, your thoughts and actions become habitually directed toward that goal. This is what I see in my husband. The ability to maintain his center, and from that forgiveness just follows.
Each day I’m thinking of those who thoughtfully visit, and hoping that your needs are met, that your present moments are those of hope. Thank you for stopping by. Lilie